Archive | December, 2015

Bonding with Your Baby during the 4th Trimester: Published in Sassy Mama

Bonding with Your Baby during the 4th Trimester: Published in Sassy Mama

Posted on 23 December 2015 by Kristrun

fourthTrimester“In the fourth trimester – the first weeks after the baby is born and is at home with you – there are many things you can do to make the transition easier and less stressful for both you and the baby and the family as a whole. Always keep in mind that the baby is adjusting and learning and finding its own feet and for the time being, the parents are its link to being able to do so. The baby relies on you 100 percent and tries to message you in the best way it possibly can. If you ignore or rush too much through those signals, or perhaps follow advice from others who are maybe not in the same situation, it may well result in a stressful situation, more cries from the baby and a delayed bonding between the two of you.”

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To read the full article on Sassy Mama - click here

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Sleeping in cold weather – temperature management

Sleeping in cold weather – temperature management

Posted on 22 December 2015 by Kristrun

Grobags from Bloom and Grow Asia are great to keep a baby warm.

Grobags from Bloom and Grow Asia are great to keep a baby warm in cold weather.

As winter approaches in Hong Kong, there may be a change in the temperature in your baby’s bedroom and also what your baby will feel comfortable wearing whilst sleeping. Help your baby to sleep safe and sound by keeping them at an ideal temperature. The UK guidelines posted on this site about sleeping norms, will recommend the temperature between 16-20° but during most months in Hong Kong, this can be difficult. Understand your baby, choose clothes and layers depending on the temperature each time and check your baby often. You will become a master in temperature management after a few short months.

  • A baby who is too cold will probably be fussy and cry, but it is overheating which can be more of a problem – especially for those of us without thermostatically controlled heating systems. You will work it out – keep a thermometer in the room and regularly check your baby – adding or removing layers if needs be.
  • If using a heater, be sure that it is not near the baby’s cot but is just keeping the room at a comfortable temperature in general. For reverse cycle air conditioning, be sure that it is not directed at your baby’s cot but again is keeping the room generally at the correct temperature, call the AC repair service in case something works not the way it should.
  • You can use a sleeping bag at a higher tog rating, (click here if you don’t know what that is) or add an extra vest or warmer sleep suit. You can also use a blanket and tuck it under the mattress. Baby should also be placed with feet close to the bottom of the bed, so that if she does wriggle, she will only move upwards and not downwards under her bedding.
  • Use lightweight blankets and never use a duvet, quilt or pillow for babies under 12 months old.  Make sure there is no padding around your baby’s cot which could trap warm air and lead to your baby overheating.
  • You can try to add socks and mittens if feet and hands are very cold, but please bear in mind that it is normal for hands and feet to feel cool, even a bit cold.
  • Don’t put a hot water bottle or electric blanket in your baby’s cot, however cold the weather is.
  • If you think your baby is getting too hot, check his tummy and back. These areas should feel warm, not sweaty and definitely not cool to the touch. If either feels hot, or he’s sweaty, remove some layers. It’s normal for your baby’s hands and feet to feel cooler than the rest of the body.
  • Hats are not recommended for indoor use in case your baby overheats. Babies lose heat from their heads and if heads are covered, they may just get hotter and hotter during sleep time without it being noticed.

 

Stay warm

The Annerley Team.

Updated December 20th 2015

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Should my child eat in front of the screen?

Should my child eat in front of the screen?

Posted on 22 December 2015 by Kristrun

Screen timeThe very recent widespread access to mobile screens has changed our behaviour and – without a doubt – our children’s behaviour. Until very recently we would only have televisions in our homes – and very few would have access to mobile TV screens. Nowadays we see many babies and children with a screen in restaurants, sitting in prams or in the lap of a parent – absorbed, quiet and calm.

Because of this recent change the effects of children using a screen from early days has not been researched much – there are no adults yet who have had this experience – so long term research does not exist. The interest to fund such research is probably not great as a lot of powerful companies around the world are much more focused on making our children future consumers in front of the screen.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommend that kids under 2 years of age watch nothing at all and children older than 2 – not more than two hours daily. Of course not all screen time is the same – catching up with grandparents on Skype is not the same as spending time alone with the iPad.

What about eating whilst in front of the screen? Many parents use this as a regular means of keeping their little ones in their seats at meal times. Here are a few things to consider.

-It can affect the amount of food the child consumes – and they may overeat without realising it.

-It´s important for children to copy adult behaviour during mealtimes. That is how they really learn how to behave – the distraction of the screen will very likely delay this learning procedure.

-For the same reason, they may lose interest in certain types of food as they miss out on seeing an adult show interest, talk about and consume the foods.

-It can be extremely difficult to wean the child from using the screen at mealtimes.

-It can affect their language development to miss out on the communication during mealtimes. Mealtimes are meant to be a social time.

-The need for the screen may create a false need for food.

-The child can be very upset when the screen is taken away from her, causing other problems after mealtimes.

It can take time to teach children to behave as we would like them to around mealtimes. Don’t expect them to last long at the table in the beginning – they will gradually and slowly learn this skill and grow to enjoy it. Some enjoy it from young age whilst for others it can take a lot longer. Eventually all normal healthy children will get there.

Happy eating

Kristrun

B.Ed, M. Ed. (Iceland, HK) C.E.C.E. (HK)

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Understanding your helper – Published in Sassy Mama

Understanding your helper – Published in Sassy Mama

Posted on 20 December 2015 by Kristrun

understandingyourhelperYour search has ended (for now). Your helper arrives at your apartment, and your relationship as employer and employee has begun. The difference, though, with this employee is she lives with you and likely cares for your kids. You may know her manifest strength and weaknesses, but do you understand her as a person?

The ocean between knowing and understanding another person is tremendous; you may have many relationships orbiting you, but how many of those people do you truly understand? The idea of understanding your helper as a soul may be lofty, yet understanding enough about her background and posture may improve your working relationship. Here are some ideas on how:  Click here to read the full article on SASSY MAMA. 

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Succesful Blooming Bellies

Posted on 02 December 2015 by Kristrun

Helen - Feel Good Factor

Helen – Feel Good Factor

We are very proud of the successful Blooming Bellies event we recently hosted at Feel Good Factor spa on November 20th. The ladies attending learned about birth options from Hong Kong’s leading expert on the subject (our very own Hulda) – at the same time as meeting other mums-to-be and enjoying the well known hospitality of the  Feel Good Factor!

The speakers were:

Hulda Thorey Gardarsdottir – midwife at AnnerleyGiving birth in Hong Kong . Hulda talked about Hong Kong birth options from a professional point of view as well as sharing her own birth stories, which include both medical and more natural choices. Lots of useful questions were asked and lots of laughs especially when exploring the role of the partner!

Jennifer Heathfield-Lee from Athena Lifedebunked the myths behind about cord blood stem cell banking. Jennifer has a unique insight into stem cell banking options in Hong Kong and how it can be done.

Dora H. Hardaway from Right To Birth Your WayTop exercises for a better birth . Dora is known for her passion about personal and direct approach to help women achieve their goals when it comes to preparing for giving birth in Hong Kong.

Delicious food courtesy of Liz from Gingers with an express mani, pedi or foot massage from the staff at The Feel Good Factor. Everyone attending received 5% off the services at Athena Life  and a lucky winners were drawn who won a hamper worth over HK$2000 from Native Essentials and a support package ( Best of Both or Private Hospital Package) from Annerley. The Photographer Ines Laimins captured the mood and took photos as well as provided a further prize of a photo shoot. Every participant will get 50% off one of the prenatal fitness classes with Dora and for one lucky participant a free three class pass they can use towards any of Dora’s classes. Here is a this comparison of a couple different workouts. Last but not least The Feel Good Factor gave away a package of 3 pregnancy massages and one post pregnancy massage worth HK$2,800.00.

It was a truly enjoyable afternoon – relaxed, fun and informative. Just what we were aiming for.

Thank you all …

Great photos from the event on our Facebook page.

 

 

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Enabling play

Enabling play

Posted on 02 December 2015 by Kristrun

ToddlerToddlers are fun, demanding and sometimes difficult to understand. They can be loud, messy and most of the time have a very short attention span. But at the same time they are so cute – expressing themselves in a unique way – coming up, and coming out with the most amazing things!

Most parents handle this beautifully – others struggle. This article will not solve all your issues but I have made a short list that might help in gradually encouraging your toddler to entertain herself, and in turn, increasing the peace.

  • Toddlers are not small adults. Most of them will make no distinction between their physical or emotional feelings. So most of the time you need to try to predict what is going on and figure out if they are hungry, tired or just upset about something. Reasoning will rarely work. Distract and get food in, or distract and find something else to do often works a lot better than explaining or arguing. In fact distracting is my favorite tool in my toolbox!
  • Allow and create an environment to play. It does not need to be complicated – put toys on the floor , sit down with your toddler and start dressing dolls, building Lego or blocks, driving cars. They will follow. You may need to be with them to begin with but they will gradually play by themselves. Once they get going – don’t stop them – don’t interfere in the game – let them talk to themselves and just bide your time. Gradually the time they can play without your input will increase.
  • Create play environments to your advantage. If you need to do some cooking, create a cooking play area in the kitchen with a bowl and a big spoon and some chopped veg. If you need to send some emails or work on your computer, create a “desk” for them with an old keyboard and some post-it notes.
  • Keep toys tidy and in themed boxes. You don’t need much, but keep the blocks together, and the dolls and dresses in the same box. If it’s all muddled up it’s not as easy for them to get going – they may mix it up eventually as a part of the game but then try to store it away as organized as it was in the beginning. Of course, even better to turn this into a game also with your toddler and encourage this habit!
  • When you set up the toys – use different rooms. A toy becomes a completely different toy if you put it outside – or in the bedroom or living room.
  • Old handbags, luggage, notebooks, keyboards, envelopes and old phones are endless resource for play. Mine have played “travel” for days and days. Make sure it’s all safe of course – remove old batteries and so on. Remember they are always copying adults. Shop play is always exciting and even more so if you bring out actual groceries and household items and REAL money in mum’s old wallet. Spend a bit of time on labeling and the game can go on for days!
  • Be around to help little fingers with the things they can’t work out – but let them come to you. Don’t interrupt them when they are trying to do things on their own, however much you want to jump in and help. One problem resulting from having domestic helpers in Hong Kong is that children have assistance on hand constantly. Let them try and do things themselves – that’s how they learn and gain a sense of independence.
  • Keep it simple – complicated toys need more manpower.
  • There is no right and wrong in play. Don’t stop them if they are not playing “correctly” with something – like using a shopping trolley as a bed for their teddies, for example. Leave them be.
  • Less is more when it comes to toys. A packed playroom full of dozens of toys can actually be a bit stressful for a small child and does not encourage play. Rotate the toys – put most of them away and get a few out at a time. Next week, put these away and take something different out. You will be amazed at how suddenly a toy they ignored in the crowded room suddenly is the best thing ever!
  • Don’t be tempted to immediately go out and buy everything which your child loved at someone else’s house. This is just novelty. Create your own novelty with the point above ^^
  • When it’s time to tidy up – let them help you and praise them for helping out – even if they only manage to put back a few things. That will gradually change.

Last but not least – enjoy spending time with your toddler and treasure those simple moments. They don’t expect much from us – sometimes just a cuddle here and there, for us to be around, to be picked up from school when they least expect it – or to sit down with a book and read. They don’t need much entertainment – they need a cuddle and a play much more than a stressful trip to Ocean Park.

Related: How to choose right local daycare?

Enjoy

Kristrún

B.Ed, M. Ed. (Iceland, HK) C.E.C.E. (HK)

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