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My baby is crying

My baby is crying

Posted on 04 August 2016 by Kristrun

crying baby tongueOne way for a new-born baby is to express him/her is through cry, and therefore crying is considered normal. Usually there is a reason for why the new-born cries however; he/she is telling us that something is wrong: hunger, tiredness, wet diaper, cold, pain, – or most commonly that he/she just wants you to be there.

Different types of cry:
Although sometimes this is hard in the beginning, parents usually quickly learn to know different types of cry. The cry because of hunger somehow sounds different from the cry from someone that wants attention. Some babies cry more than others and some stop immediately when you either pick them up or feed them, while others will always take time to recover.

What should you do?
Even though your baby does not stop crying immediately when you cuddle him/her, they can still feel the security of your presence, and often this is what they are really longing for, just like kittens do when they cuddle up with their mum in the early days.
If the cry does not stop, you can try to change the nappy, or see if the baby is either too hot or cold. Of course hunger is also often the reason for cry, and you must ensure that the baby has been fed well. If you have difficulties knowing when the baby has fed enough, you can always contact the midwife or lactation consultant to help you out.

If your baby cries without any obvious reason for extended periods (more than an hour or two and does not stop), you should have a doctor’s appointment to ensure nothing is seriously wrong, such as an ear infection or an accidental fall or injury.

Colic, is a condition that requires a lot of patience and support from everyone in the family, since often there is little that can be done to fix the problem, except for waiting for the baby to develop, and whilst doing so, to find different settling ways that might help. When there is colic (crying on and off more or less every day at the same time of the day for 1 – 3 hours) present – I would suggest that you come to the baby clinic or see the midwives/health visitor to help you to identify this for sure. But should this be the case, usually the best solution is to keep the baby as close to you as possible, – you will end up with lots of cuddles, tummy time, chest time and usually a sling. Mum or dad can of course both do this. A pacifier is sometimes helpful and movement usually helps.

Parents often feel real helpless when their baby cries a lot, and they find it difficult to continuously try to find ways to settle the crying new-born – and often cannot find why the cry is there. Again, best way is to be patient and try different positions, walk around and talk to the baby, have the baby in a slightly upright position or even lying on its front on your chest. If you find that you simply need a break, ask your partner, a friend or your helper to give you a little time off, where you leave the apartment and try to catch your breath for a few minutes. To take a baby outside or change the environment often works like magic. But time passing is what eventually helps and the problem is usually solved on its own around 3 months. As it can be hard to wait it may be useful to speak with other mums and dads, come to playgroups and the well-baby clinic to share your experiences – often when learning others are going through the same, it somehow makes the problem a little less hard to deal with.

What NOT to do:
You should NEVER shake your baby, no matter how angry/tired/annoyed you are. This can cause extreme danger to the baby. If you feel like doing something like this, put the baby down immediately, walk out of the room, close the door and either have someone else caring for the child while you calm down, or just leave it for some moments if no one is around to help you. Call a friend or family member. Enter the room again when you feel that you have calmed down, and try not to feel guilty, this is something that many parents experience at some point in their parenthood, but the main thing is to deal with the situation in the correct way.

Is it healthy for the baby to cry?
In the old days this was a common belief, and thought to strengthen babies´ lungs. There is a possibility that there is some truth in this, especially in the first days of their lives when they need to get rid of extra fluid in their lungs after being in the uterus. However, parents should always respond to their baby’s cry and try to figure out why the baby is crying. Babies should not be left crying for a long time, they need tender, love and care so that they may develop trust for their parents and the feeling that someone is always there for them.

2015/ Annerley – Hulda Thorey

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