Are you a Natural Mother?

Posted on 27 June 2012 by Annerley

Before I became a Mum, a few people told me that I would be a Natural Mother and I believed them. I didn’t see any reason not to. In fact, it comforted me to know that I could skip towards motherhood safe in the knowledge that it would all come naturally to me. But then I gave birth and realised pretty fast that they weren’t just a little bit wrong, they were completely and utterly wrong! Looking back, I can understand why I wanted to believe them but the fact is, it was never going to happen.

The truth is there’s no such thing as a Natural Mother (so if you answered the above question with a no, you can breathe a sigh of relief!). It’s true that some women have more of an aptitude for it than others but to have some kind of natural all-encompassing knowledge of something you have never experienced before just doesn’t make any sense. If I was to begin any other job in any other field, I wouldn’t expect to know it all before I began. Sure I would spend time researching and asking questions but my expectation would be to learn the vast majority on the job. It’s the same for Motherhood. The job of taking care of another human being – feeding, clothing, routines etc – is not something that we learn by osmosis from our own mothers or simply because we’re female. It’s something that we learn as we go. However, for one reason or another, we sometimes get a strange idea that we’ll just know what our baby needs when s/he needs it. Don’t get me wrong, we do reach this place eventually but no faster than we would reach a similar sense of certainty in any other situation. It takes time for all of us. Every baby is different as is every mother.

What does help is to ask, ask and keep on asking. Some responses you’ll consider, others you’ll discard but each piece of advice will help you to get to that place of certainty faster. Here, at Annerley, we want to support you in getting to that place so this July we’re introducing a whole new workshop just for that purpose. The Truth About Motherhood is a 4-part workshop for Mums-only that will give you plenty of tips, techniques and true stories about life as a Mum in Hong Kong. And because we know how precious your time is, we’re keeping each workshop to just one hour each week. So if you want to know the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth from someone who’s been through it all three times, simply click here!

 

Orla Breeze works with new parents and parents-to-be here at annerley where she runs her popular workshops Daddy 101 & The Truth About Motherhood

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