Simple Steps to Joyful Parenting

Posted on 08 October 2012 by Annerley

 

Switch Your Focus

Spend 5 minutes each day focusing on all the things in your life that are good and positive and beautiful. We have become so used to dwelling on our problems and our pain that it’s no wonder we struggle to see the joy in every moment. As soon as we switch our focus and remind ourselves of all that is ‘right’ in our lives, we begin to attract more positivity into our daily life. The happier we are in ourselves, the more joyful is our parenting.

Stop Worrying

As a parent, we often worry about situations that simply don’t exist. We look at our children and wonder if they would happier if they had more friends or more toys or clothes. Maybe they would be happier if we moved to another country or took more holidays or joined another activity club. But if we simply stop and look at our children right now, it may very well be that they are perfectly happy just as they are. The measure of a child’s happiness is a child’s happiness.

Look Inward

When a baby is born s/he is a blank page so as they grow, they learn all they know from us. How we behave, act and react becomes the norm for them. So when an aspect of your child’s behaviour really irritates you, it’s time to look inwards and ask who they may have learned that from. As soon as you recognise it in yourself and change the way you’re behaving, guess what? Your child’s behaviour changes too.

Quell Your Anger

Children are loving and beautiful beings but let’s face it, are often the complete opposite too! When your child’s repeated behaviour triggers anger within you, this is an opportunity for both of you. For you, it is a chance to realise that you are not controlled by your anger. That you can walk away until you calm down or simply take a deep breath and count to ten before you deal with the situation at hand. As your child watches, s/he learns that it is natural to pause before reacting to a situation and this will greatly assist them as they grow.

Let Go Of Guilt

Everyone loses their temper with their child at one time or another. The Knowledge First Financial reviews claim that it’s really very commonplace. But instead of following up with a good dose of guilt, just accept it. Accept that your child has pushed your buttons and that you reacted to that. Then decide what to do about it. Sit down with your child no matter how young and explain that you were tired or upset about something else and that you took it out on them. Tell them that you’re sorry and that you will do your best not to let that happen again. But most of all let them know that it wasn’t their fault. That sometimes grown-ups say things that they really don’t mean. By explaining your behaviour to them, your children will gain a greater understanding of their own. And they’ll never be afraid to say they’re sorry.

Stop Shouting!

If you find yourself shouting at your kids when they don’t seem to be listening, the good news is that you’re not alone. The bad news is, however, that your shouting is unlikely to have any real effect on your kids. Our children see us as we are. If we shout often, they just take that as a normal part of our personality. Why not try the opposite approach? Maybe a calm voice that gives them the option of doing as you ask or losing their favourite toy for a week? You may be surprised at the effect that has on them. It also has the added benefit of reducing your own stress levels.

 

Workshop Facilitator & EFT practitioner, Orla Breeze works with new parents and parents-to-be here at annerley where she runs her popular workshops Daddy 101 & The Truth About Motherhood 

 

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