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Letters from Thailand – my late maternity leave

Posted on 20 March 2012 by hulda

I have always taken on too much.  Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.  My kids suffer, my family suffers, my clients suffer and of course I suffer.  But most of the time all is good and the enthusiasm, the ideas and the usual energy have always been by best friends. 

In the last three years, my life has been rather more hectic than usual though, so much so that the two additional run-arounds-in-the-house (Saga and Vaka)  are almost self raised and Annerley that has been going through it’s growth spurts as well is bursting on it’s seams.  Luckily, there is help everywhere and I am fortunate that my family is big, very loving and helpful and everyone just makes things right.  And with the excellent staff at Annerley things are smooth there too. 

Now, i am writing this as I sit here on a beach in a little cottage in Koh Samui, where I “escaped” to two days ago.  Escaped, as there is so much to do and so little time!  And one of the things I realized that i had not done was to have my maternity leave with little Vaka, who was born almost a year ago.  For all of you mums and mums-to-be out there, i certainly do not recommend this and for sure I did not intend it this way, there were a combination of factors that brought this on, but again, lucky me, I did manage to slow it down for a while and till now always bring Vaka with me to work.  Now that I am here in Thailand, i have a little time for just the two of us to relax and enjoy a quiet time.  And it is absolutely gorgeous here! 

And what happens?  The usual mummy thing.  Guilt.  As soon as the feet step down on the ground from the plane, the massive guilt that the other kids are not here and that i have left them at home.  This is so typical, and although I knew I never would be able to do this type of a relaxed trip where there is just yoga, healthy food, beach, wind, sun, baby, breastfeeding and me – with all the family around, I still feel that I should have.  All mums that I know are the same.  They just cannot enjoy the downtime by themselves, they always start to think about the kids. 

As all working mothers that either choose or need to work, of course I am no different.  Comments from others like “I would never want to leave my kids with a helper, what is the point of having them then” are totally understood by me, I know why people say it and share some of the feeling about it.  But still, at the end of the day, I am a working mum and will continue to be one, so I have long time ago learned to accept that whatever time i DO have with my kids, I must make the most of.  And be happy. 

Hence this trip.  And it is making me VERY happy!

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